Noun 1. sadomasochism - sadism and masochism combined in one person
sadism - sexual pleasure obtained by inflicting harm (physical or psychological) on others
masochism - sexual pleasure obtained from receiving punishment (physical or psychological)
I do like S & M, but with limitations.
I can honestly say I'm more of a sadist than a masochist.
Although I have never done a full role play of dominatrix/submissive, I have acted out some parts of S & M.
I do like to tie people up, but I like doing scarves and ropes, more so than actual handcuffs. I like to scratch and bite on parts of the body. I like to pull on nipples. I like pulling hair and barking orders. I love to spank...with a paddle, wet towel, and with my hands.
I'm not much of a masochist, however. But I do like my nipples nibbled on and tugged. My hair pulled. With tying, there has to be extreme trust, as well as with spanking. Reason I say that is one point in my life when I was sexually open, this person did things to me that violated that trust...so this side is not a side I freely show to someone.
Although I do admit to being a control freak, it's not nearly as extreme as I purport it to people. If with the right person, I am willing to relinquish a little bit and allow myself to be comfortable in the other role.
Limitations: not into burning, cutting, hitting with chains, nipple clamps or stuff that will have someone look like they were in a domestic dispute or ICU.