Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Day 15~Life Without Love?

15~ Can you live without a love relationship?

Simply put, I cannot.

Love between myself and my Maker is an absolute. He is the embodiment of Love. How can one look for love and yet not have Him as a factor? Answer-you cannot.

Although for most of my life, I’ve been a loner (translation--don’t have a lot of friends), I do cherish the love of the ones who have been there by my side--not just through the good but also the bad. People who know me...know I do not use the word friend loosely...I take friendship quite seriously.

The ones who were just along for the high ride--well, they have since been eliminated…not talking about them...

I am a believer that God can also send good spirits into your life. You don’t even have to officially be around these people to have that connect. You just know there is love there and you have each other’s backs.

As far as a romantic Love relationship, the answer is a bit more complex.

In the past, I was the type of person who seemed to always be in a relationship. Even after the last one ended, there was not too much space between the last one and a brand new one.

I had to realize that I was in love with the idea of a relationship and not all of the people I was with I was in love with. I had to learn to separate the idea of what it is supposed to look like from what it really is…

I had to get past that itch--the restlessness and sometimes uncertainty of being single.

I had to look at being single as time to really get to know myself. At times, I lost myself and by the time I got out of being so-and-so’s girl, it took a bit of excavation to get back to me.

So I had to stop looking and jumping on the first thing glistening…and after a while it became easier and I didn’t look at being single with disdain.

And only when I stepped back

When I stopped going like a runaway train and started doing a leisurely stroll…

Only when I got back to me…

…that I realized I don’t necessarily need a Love relationship in the form of a romantic one.

Although I am in quite a good one now, it is not the end of the world if it comes to an end.

I’m taking things one step at a time, looking at things realistically, not getting blinded by the smoke and mirrors of potential and promise.

I love me enough to NOT need another person to complete me, but to enhance what is already there.


The God'ess said...

Exactly the truth!!

No Labels said...

Thanks, Maria!

Thee_Kween said...

I concur...love comes in many forms. Romance is not the only way to be loved.